Today, we’re diving into the intricate world of relationships and the powerful secret of attracting a specific person into your life. The questions surrounding love and connection can be overwhelming, and many seek advice on how to start a relationship, heal from one, or even how to leverage the Law of Attraction to attract that special someone they have their heart set on. However, what if the most effective way to attract your specific person lies not just in visualization techniques, but in healing the deepest parts of yourself first?
This discussion combines practical relationship guidance with the transformative power of Ho’oponopono and connecting with your inner child—your Unihipili. This will be the first of a series focused on these essential topics, exploring how ancient Hawaiian wisdom can revolutionize your approach to manifesting love with your desired person.
Understanding Your Unihipili: The Inner Child Connection
Before we can truly attract our specific person, we must acknowledge and heal our Unihipili—the Hawaiian term for our subconscious mind, often understood as our inner child. This part of us holds all our memories, emotions, and past experiences, including wounds from childhood and previous relationships that may be unconsciously sabotaging our ability to attract the love we desire from that particular person.
When individuals approach me about love, they often feel an intense longing for a specific person, fixating on why that particular individual isn’t responding to their energy or returning their feelings. But this longing frequently stems from unhealed wounds within the Unihipili. Perhaps your inner child learned that love was something to chase, or that you needed to prove your worth to be chosen. These limiting beliefs, stored in your subconscious mind, create energetic blocks that actually push your specific person away.
Your Unihipili communicates through emotions, physical sensations, and repetitive patterns in your relationships. If you find yourself obsessing over someone who seems unavailable, experiencing anxiety when they don’t respond immediately, or feeling desperate to control the outcome, these are messages from your inner child asking for healing and attention. The irony is that the more we chase, the more we repel—but Ho’oponopono can reverse this dynamic entirely.
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Ho’oponopono: The Ancient Art of Relationship Healing
Ho’oponopono, which means “to make right” or “to correct,” is an ancient Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness. At its core, it recognizes that everything we experience in our external world—including our relationships with specific people—is a reflection of what exists within our consciousness.
The traditional Ho’oponopono process involves four simple yet profound phrases that can dramatically shift your relationship dynamics:
- “I’m sorry” – Taking responsibility for whatever within you created the current situation with your specific person
- “Please forgive me” – Asking for forgiveness from the Divine and yourself for any limiting beliefs or actions
- “Thank you” – Expressing gratitude for the opportunity to heal and for your specific person’s role in your growth
- “I love you” – Sending pure love to yourself, your specific person, and the entire situation
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Starting a Relationship with Your Specific Person: The Ho’oponopono Way
Here’s where most people get it wrong when trying to attract someone specific. They focus intensely on that person while feeling an underlying sense of lack and desperation. However, today’s discussion is about taking the first transformative step toward attracting your specific person by healing your Unihipili first.
It’s crucial to recognize that intense desire alone, especially when anchored in neediness or fear of loss, creates energetic resistance that your specific person can sense on a subconscious level. To genuinely attract your desired person, you must first become energetically aligned with love itself, not just the outcome you want.
This is where Ho’oponopono becomes your secret weapon. When you practice the four phrases while thinking of your specific person, you’re not trying to manipulate or control them. Instead, you’re clearing away the energetic debris—the fears, past hurts, and limiting beliefs stored in your Unihipili—that’s been blocking the natural flow of love between you.
Become a person who has interests, hobbies, and friendships outside of your romantic obsession with this individual. Your Unihipili needs to feel safe and complete on its own before it can attract authentic love. When you’re genuinely engaged with life and not fixated on one person’s response to you, this energy becomes magnetic. Your specific person will sense this shift energetically, often leading to unexpected contact or renewed interest.
The Power of Visualization Combined with Inner Child Healing
Visualization is indeed a powerful tool, but when combined with Unihipili healing, it becomes extraordinary. You can absolutely visualize your specific person in your life, behaving lovingly toward you, but the key is doing this from a place of inner wholeness rather than desperate need.
Before your visualization practice, spend time connecting with your inner child. Ask your Unihipili: “What are you afraid of regarding this person? What past hurt is being triggered?” Listen to the emotions and memories that arise. Your inner child might reveal fears of rejection, abandonment, or not being good enough—all stemming from earlier experiences.
Once you’ve acknowledged these fears with compassion, use Ho’oponopono to heal them. Say the four phrases while holding your inner child’s pain with love. Only then should you move into visualization, but now from a place of love rather than lack.
Here’s the crucial nuance: while you can visualize your specific person, practice what I call “attached detachment.” Yes, you have a preference for this individual, but you’re not desperately clinging to the outcome. You’re open to the possibility that the universe might have an even better plan—perhaps bringing this person to you in an unexpected way, or revealing that someone even more compatible exists.
Embracing the Journey of Energetic Alignment
The universe encompasses infinite possibilities, and while you have your heart set on a specific individual, restricting yourself energetically through desperation or control actually limits what can unfold. Your Unihipili responds to love, safety, and playfulness—not pressure and force.
Set your sights on the end goal of being with your specific person while actively healing your inner child’s wounds around love. When you prioritize your own emotional healing and inner child work, you become naturally magnetic. Your specific person will sense this energetic transformation, often leading to surprising shifts in your dynamic.
Practice this powerful technique: Imagine beautiful scenarios with your specific person, but focus more on how loved and cherished your inner child feels in these moments rather than on controlling every detail of how it happens. Visualize your Unihipili feeling completely safe, adored, and secure. This energetic signature is what actually draws your specific person toward you.
It’s important to leave the door open for new experiences and possibilities; if your initial approach doesn’t create the response you hoped for, someone even greater may come along. Trust the process and recognize that the universe has a greater plan for you, which may include your specific person responding in ways you never expected.
The Ho’oponopono Daily Practice for Attracting Your Specific Person
Here’s a practical daily routine that combines all these elements:
Morning Practice:
- Connect with your Unihipili by placing your hands on your heart and asking: “What do you need to feel loved today?”
- Practice Ho’oponopono while thinking of your specific person, clearing any energetic resistance
- Visualize being with them from a place of inner wholeness, not neediness
Throughout the Day:
- When thoughts of your specific person arise, immediately check: “Is this coming from love or fear?”
- If fear, practice Ho’oponopono to clear the energy
- Engage fully in your own life, interests, and growth
Evening Practice:
- Thank your Unihipili for any insights received about your relationship patterns
- Send love to your specific person energetically, with no attachment to their response
- Affirm your own worthiness of love, regardless of any external outcome
Why This Method Works When Others Fail
Traditional manifestation techniques often fail because they operate from the conscious mind alone, while your Unihipili—holding all your deepest fears and beliefs—remains unhealed. Ho’oponopono works by addressing the root cause: the wounded inner child that believes it’s not worthy of love from your desired person.
When you heal these core wounds, your energy field naturally becomes magnetic. Your specific person will feel drawn to you without understanding why. They’ll find themselves thinking about you more, feeling compelled to reach out, or suddenly seeing you in a new light. This isn’t manipulation—it’s energetic alignment with your highest truth as a lovable being.
The ancient Hawaiians understood that we attract what we are, not what we want. When your Unihipili feels genuinely loved and worthy, you become irresistible to others, especially to that special someone who holds your heart.
Conclusion: Trust the Sacred Process
As we continue exploring this sacred intersection of Hawaiian wisdom and relationship manifestation in upcoming discussions, remember that healing your Unihipili is the most powerful thing you can do to attract your specific person. The ancient Hawaiians understood that all healing begins within, and all relationships are reflections of our inner state.
When you combine the clearing power of Ho’oponopono with inner child healing, you create an irresistible energetic signature that naturally draws your desired person toward you—not through manipulation, but through authentic transformation.
Keep posting your questions and experiences with these practices, as they guide these conversations. Taking time to connect with your Unihipili and practice Ho’oponopono this weekend can lead to profound shifts in your relationship dynamic. Trust that your specific person is feeling these energetic changes, even if you don’t see immediate external evidence.
Have an amazing weekend filled with inner child healing and Ho’oponopono magic, and I look forward to hearing about the beautiful transformations that unfold. Remember: when you heal yourself, you heal your relationships. When you love yourself, you become irresistibly lovable to others—especially to that special someone your heart desires.
